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Meditation Matters

Everyone comes to meditation for a reason. For me, it was to finish writing a novel. I did in fact finish writing that novel and it exists in a virtual drawer. Most people come to meditation to...

My Mother’s Antennae for Antisemitism

My mother kept a list in her head of antisemites. The list was long and basically included anyone who was not Jewish. She shared it with me on every appropriate occasion, which is to say at least a...

The Presence of Presents

While cleaning out a coat closet, my husband and I found a black hoodie I’d bought for him ten years ago when we were first dating. Jimmy carefully evaluates every item in his closet for its current...

Everyone Brushes their Teeth

A couple of decades ago, I started using an electric toothbrush. It took me a few weeks to get used to the pressure of the electric powered brush against my teeth and gums, very different from what I...

Multitasking is my Drug of Choice

One of my students reported to me this week he has been meditating consistently twice a day for ten minutes each time. I waste so much time on stupid things, I definitely can make time to meditate and...

A Matter of Fact

Sometimes and if I’m being honest, often, the only thing we can find to agree upon is how despicable we find each other’s opinions. For the past few months, I’ve been involved in a discussion with a...

It’s that time of year 

It’s that time of year when people often make a New Year’s resolution in hopes of becoming a better version of themselves. Certainly, there’s no shortage of advice for how to do that, but I’ve never...

The Solace of Venus

Tonight, if you can find a place without too many streetlights and the sky is fairly clear, look up in the northeast and take note of the largest shining object you can see. What you see is a planet:...

LAST TIME

The other day, I opened the kitchen drawer to grab a sheet of leftover newspaper that I use to cover my kitchen counter from splatters and noticed I was down to my last sheet. I can’t get an...

How Do We Define Success?

Sometimes this is how the day goes. All organized, ready to teach, ready to travel. My suitcase is packed and my schedule is tight, but it’s going to work. I’m planning to leave for the airport...

Identities

We create our stories, we repeat our stories, we believe our stories. Joel told me he’s not the kind of person to punch his fist through a wall when he’s aggravated. He’s a department...

Married, Single, Widowed, Divorced

I’ve been a patient about a million times. There are so many dehumanizing aspects to being immersed in a medical system, but one thing that torques me off quite a bit is the dreaded medical intake...

Not my Type

In the latter part of the last century, there was a story going around about a woman law student in the graduating class before me who was asked whether she knew how to type in a job interview. Back...

Memory Matters

I’ve been thinking a lot about my memories —the silly ones I retain, the important ones I don’t have access to any longer. It haunts me. The memories wash up like unremarkable and practically...

Trickle Down Theory

Here’s a line I often hear when I’m in a conversation with someone about the benefits of a mindfulness meditation practice: “Of course, I should learn to meditate but my spouse/family...

Snow Day

There’s a technique for teaching mindfulness meditation to children that involves shaking up a snow globe and then watching it slowly slowly settle down. There are lots of variations on this exercise...

THE PRACTICE OF PRACTICE

It used to be when I taught meditation, I taught the way I’d been taught: sit in stillness for twenty minutes every day. I teach differently now. Too many people have sheepishly told me they manage to...

EVERYONE COMES TO MEDITATION FOR A REASON

(or how my meditation practice committed to me) For many people it’s to decrease anxiety or to lessen what they describe as stress. For me, the initial goal was to complete writing a novel. It was a...

New Year’s Intentions

My cousin Sue sells more residential real estate than anyone else in her city. Her grandchildren live on the other side of the country and she visits them frequently. She is accomplished and organized...

Publications

Facts versus opinions – sometimes, even for those of good will, they don’t sync up.  January 28, 2024  (Cleveland.com)